ABOUT QUICK BIGHTS - A SPEED DATING EVENT
Rope-lationships can be hard to cultivate - let's have a lightning-round style of lab exercise to set up some quick bights - speed dating for rope labs.
We hope participants will be able to:
* Remember this is a lab space
* Tie with intent of light hearted playfulness
* Be mindful that it is hard to rule out specific energies (sexual chemistry is welcome, but immediately escalating to scening/playing or pressuring a power dynamic is not.)
How to go about it
* We will be modeling inclusive negotiating styles: If it's not brought up, no assumptions
* Successful negotiating might mean sitting out a round, it's only 10 minutes!
* Be direct - set guidelines like only touch upper body or below the knees, discuss in and out areas. We will have vetting tape and sharpies on hand to help ID no-go zones.
*Try for explicit directions, like I am okay with pain in these areas or these kinds of touch (tickling, slapping, grappling, cuddling, formal learning mode only or clinical headspace)
FOR ALL ROPE+ EVENTS
Attendees must be competent to tie single column ties and in a role appropriate way, competently engage in at least one harness suitable for suspension, from memory with consideration for tension, placement and risks. Sorry - this is not a space for auditors or observers, all attendees are expected to engage in the educational content.
ABOUT EVENT RULES
We will set up in Serenity! People who want to tie will line up on one side of the room and people who want to be tied will be in another line. Switches can meet in the middle and pick a role to balance out numbers or follow their inclination.
Each 10 minute round will consist of:
- 2 minutes of negotiation
- 5 minutes of tying
- 2 minutes to debrief and untie
- 1 minute of aftercare
We will socialize for a short time before kicking off the next round!